Needless to say, I'm no Tanis Miller or Jason Mayo. I love these guys, but they can be spontaneously hilarious. I can't. I need to feel inspired.
Yet, I check my blog constantly for comments. I love comments. When someone comments, I feel validated, heard. When I don't receive any comments on a post, I freak out a little inside. I second guess myself. Is it worth it? Should I keep writing? Does anyone care?
This is by no means a cry for sympathy. I'm merely sharing my thought process when it comes to blogging.
I love to read and comment on other people's blogs, but I'm egocentric, I admit it. I want people to read what I write. Not because I think I'm fantastic, but because it makes what I wrote seem real to me.
I can't pretend I don't care. I can't play it cool. This has always been a side of my personality. I ask for what I need. I never waited for a guy to call me. I called him. I have no game. You can read my emotions on my face. Or in this case you can read them right here.
Tell me: Am I alone? Do you feel the need to be validated? Share your thoughts!
I feel like I have to write everyday too. Sometimes I skip a day here and there but for the most part it is everyday.
ReplyDeleteIf I write a longer post and don't seem to get comments I get a little paranoid too...
Julie, I'm so glad it's not just me! XO
ReplyDeleteI'm right there with ya! I think secretly (or not so secretly) that's why we all do it right? I just started blogging and when I got on and saw my first comment I squeeled like a pig. I too have been wanting to post more often, but I just started and don't want to set a precedent that I won't always be able to reach.
ReplyDeleteI think it's human nature, no? I feel better knowing that you think the same way! I'm off to comment on your blog!
ReplyDeletehi.
ReplyDeletei used to. a lot. but realised there was too much anxiety attached to that way of being. so i started letting that go. i won't lie and say i don't care if i had no comments. but ultimately i write for myself, to get it out. i believe that i validate myself, just by giving myself that voice.
I could have WRITTEN this post! If one of my regular commenters suddenly doesn't comment any more I worry about what I did! When I had less followers and they were easier to track I actually tracked a couple down when they unsubbed and asked why! I blog because I need a place to put the words ... but my spirit needs feedback and validation!
ReplyDeleteI don't write every day but I sure do love me comment validation! :)
ReplyDeleteI don't always comment because I feel I talk to you in REAL life! But I get all your posts in email and I read them ALL!!! :) So you know you can always talk to me about it all in real time and I'm there.
ReplyDeleteMonica- I wish I could get to that place.
ReplyDeleteBeth- Thank you! I feel the exact same way. I view my blog as a way of connecting with other parents. So it feels wonderful to receive feedback.
Amanda- YAY for comment validation!
Cordy- Thank you! Real life!
I want to be the person who is unaffected by praise or criticism. Note the word: WANT.
ReplyDeleteOh - LOVE YOUR BLOG! hehe...
ReplyDeleteHarriet- I want to be that person too!
ReplyDeleteThank you! I love YOUR blog ;)
Harriet- I want to be that person too!
ReplyDeleteThank you! I love YOUR blog ;)