I was 10 years old. I remember sitting in Hebrew school class furiously sketching a poster. I was working on the detail of a Pepsi can, hoping he would notice my artwork, hoping that I could decode what was going on in his mind. He was enigmatic. I couldn't figure him out. He was tall and skinny with black eyes that seemed to see through you. He loved kickball. I was clumsy. I was quiet, but I loved art. I lived through writing and colored pencils. I was shy, he wasn't. Even though he was seemingly outgoing, there was something underneath the surface that I couldn't get to. He wasn't giving it up. I was afraid to scratch it, but I was curious to know what was there.
His name was Nick Atlas.
After elementary school, we went our separate ways, him to a private school and me to a public arts high school.
Life is funny, and so is the internet. We connected 22 years later through Facebook. He was no longer a jock, but had transformed into a yoga teacher.
We talked online, and Nick told me he was going to be teaching a sleep therapy yoga workshop in New York. I signed up, I traveled to the Om Factory, and I took the workshop. After engaging in yoga and meditation for two and a half hours, he told me his story:
For more information on Nick Atlas click here.
Showing posts with label Interviews. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Interviews. Show all posts
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Interview With Adam Mansbach, Author of Go the Fuck to Sleep and a Giveaway!
Today was an awesome day. I had the opportunity to interview the amazing Adam Mansbach, author of the required parental reading Go the Fuck to Sleep.
Adam talked me with me over Skype about sleeping, critics, fatherhood and more!
Check out what he has to say:
Guess what insomniacs? I'm giving away a copy of Adam's masterpiece. Want to win GTFTS?
Each counts as an entry!
1. Follow Go the Fuck to Sleep on Facebook
2. Share this giveaway on Facebook and link to Old/School New School Mom's FB page
3. Follow Old School/New School Mom on Facebook.
4. Follow OS/NS mom on Google Friend Connect
5. Post a comment on why you think this book is awesome.
6. Tweet this giveaway!
Please post a comment telling any or all of those things that you did!
Winner will be announced Thursday September 27th here!
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
An Interview With Mayim Bialik
I recently had the opportunity to attend a press conference on Mayim Bialik's new parenting book "Beyond the Sling." I was really excited.
I had the chance to interview Mayim after the press conference about her book, which, by the way is fantastic. It's a memoir-based parenting book on Attachment Parenting and her own experiences as a mother.
Mayim, as you may know, was an actress on the TV show Blossom from the early 90's. She then went on to pursue a PhD in Neuroscience at UCLA, get married, and have two sons, Miles and Fred. After having kids, she became a fierce breast feeding advocate and a certified lactation consultation.
Here's what Mayim had to say about her book. She even gives me some suggestions on Ari's sleep issues.
I'll be giving away a copy of "Beyond The Sling" soon. Stay tuned for more details on that.
Friday, May 13, 2011
Michelle Au Interview at Columbia University Bookstore
On 5/11/11, I had the opportunity to interview Michelle Au at Columbia University Bookstore about her book, This Won't Hurt a Bit (and other white lies). Dr. Au was doing a book signing event up at Columbia, where she would be speaking to an audience about her book.
It was almost time for the interview, but first we took some pictures.
My friend Leigh, who introduced me to Michelle's blog, came with me to the event. First we went out for Middle-Eastern food at Cafe Nana. Then we set out for the event, books in hand.
We got to the bookstore, and saw the large crowd of young doctors-in-training sitting in the audience, in awe of Dr. Au. Then we spotted Michelle at the front of the crowd.
After Michelle spoke, and the 9000 "Au groupies" got their books signed, Leigh and I got the chance to meet Michelle in person. She was so down to earth and awesome.
Even her mom seemed cool.
It was almost time for the interview, but first we took some pictures.
After her close-ups, we found a quiet spot in the bookstore for the interview. Here's what Michelle had to say about her book, being nine months pregnant while she was an anesthesiology resident, diagnosing her own kids, and pumping breast milk in the bathroom, among other things.
Stay tuned for my official review of This Won't Hurt a Bit (and other white lies) where you'll have a chance to WIN a copy of Michelle's book!
Monday, September 13, 2010
DC Urban Dad: An Interview
In the spirit of celebrating dads, I had the opportunity to chat with DC Urban Dad.
He's a fantastic dad blogger, and I can't thank him enough, if only for this post.
During the blizzard of February 2010, I was at my wits end with Ari. Because we were trapped inside, we watched so much Blue's Clues and Yo Gabba Gabba, I wanted to throw the TV out the window!
DC Urban Dad was also feeling the cabin fever, but he had an alternative solution to the TV.
He wrote a post about a child friendly game website for toddlers: Kneebouncers. With the help of this site, I was able to tear my kid away from the boob tube.
DC Urban Dad inspired me to write my own post about it here. To this day, Ari loves Kneebouncers, and I have DC Urban Dad to thank for this!
Other than his introduction to Kneebouncers, DC Urban Dad's blog is a delight to read. He's thoughtful, has a dry sense of humor, and writes letters to his little daughter Mini-Kamp. Without further ado, here he is, for your reading pleasure, DC Urban Dad.
1. What prompted you to start a dad blog?
I started the blog thinking it would be a fun way to tell all my friends and family about what was going on. I really had no idea that almost 3 years later I would still be at it. It has sorta taken on a life of its own and each week there is something new to write about.
2. Who is Mini-Kamp and why is she called that?
The Mini-Kamp is my 2 year old daughter. My last name is Haverkamp and when on a call with a co-worker she asked me how the Mini-Kamp was doing. It just stuck.
3. What have you gained from writing a dad blog? How has your blog effected your life?
Wow, what have a I gained? Well, not money and I didn't really get into for a book deal or a movie deal or big advertising bucks. I have gained perspective and a whole bunch of other mommy and daddy pals that I have been able to learn from. I have gained peace of mind. It has become an outlet to get off my chest what I am thinking. Guess kinda like therapy without the chair and the bill at the end of the hour.
4. Do you have any previous writing experience?
Other than work emails and term papers in college, not really. In college I studied to become actor. Everything I write I try to write as if it were me talking like my inner monologue. That's actually the one way I can get the words to come out. That's actually how I am writing this out right now. I must stop talking in my head so the words will stop.
5. What advice would you offer to aspiring parent bloggers?
Definitely I have a few things that I would share:
1 - Have a sense of humor about it. Try not to take yourself too seriously.
2 - Be true to who you are.
3 - Be true to your family and remember blogging comes 2nd to them.
4 - Read, comment on other blogs.
5 - Do it for yourself, not for the cash.
Tor read more from DC Urban Dad, click here.
He's a fantastic dad blogger, and I can't thank him enough, if only for this post.
During the blizzard of February 2010, I was at my wits end with Ari. Because we were trapped inside, we watched so much Blue's Clues and Yo Gabba Gabba, I wanted to throw the TV out the window!
DC Urban Dad was also feeling the cabin fever, but he had an alternative solution to the TV.
He wrote a post about a child friendly game website for toddlers: Kneebouncers. With the help of this site, I was able to tear my kid away from the boob tube.
DC Urban Dad inspired me to write my own post about it here. To this day, Ari loves Kneebouncers, and I have DC Urban Dad to thank for this!
Other than his introduction to Kneebouncers, DC Urban Dad's blog is a delight to read. He's thoughtful, has a dry sense of humor, and writes letters to his little daughter Mini-Kamp. Without further ado, here he is, for your reading pleasure, DC Urban Dad.
1. What prompted you to start a dad blog?
I started the blog thinking it would be a fun way to tell all my friends and family about what was going on. I really had no idea that almost 3 years later I would still be at it. It has sorta taken on a life of its own and each week there is something new to write about.
2. Who is Mini-Kamp and why is she called that?
The Mini-Kamp is my 2 year old daughter. My last name is Haverkamp and when on a call with a co-worker she asked me how the Mini-Kamp was doing. It just stuck.
3. What have you gained from writing a dad blog? How has your blog effected your life?
Wow, what have a I gained? Well, not money and I didn't really get into for a book deal or a movie deal or big advertising bucks. I have gained perspective and a whole bunch of other mommy and daddy pals that I have been able to learn from. I have gained peace of mind. It has become an outlet to get off my chest what I am thinking. Guess kinda like therapy without the chair and the bill at the end of the hour.
4. Do you have any previous writing experience?
Other than work emails and term papers in college, not really. In college I studied to become actor. Everything I write I try to write as if it were me talking like my inner monologue. That's actually the one way I can get the words to come out. That's actually how I am writing this out right now. I must stop talking in my head so the words will stop.
5. What advice would you offer to aspiring parent bloggers?
Definitely I have a few things that I would share:
1 - Have a sense of humor about it. Try not to take yourself too seriously.
2 - Be true to who you are.
3 - Be true to your family and remember blogging comes 2nd to them.
4 - Read, comment on other blogs.
5 - Do it for yourself, not for the cash.
Tor read more from DC Urban Dad, click here.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Yo! I Got a Question For You: Why is Daddy Crying?
There is so much estrogen in the blogosphere, I was beginning to get a little cranky reading all these mom blogs. Now, don't get me wrong, I love the ladies, but I needed a change. Keep in mind that I am exceedingly pregnant and therefore need someone to make me laugh before I cry...or stab someone. But I digress. I found that laugh in my dear dad blogger friend, Why is Daddy Crying. He's hilarious, real and he's here to tell us the down low about being a dad. Are you ready for him? Here he is, Why is Daddy Crying!
1. What is your real name or are you forbidden to tell us?
I was pretty hardcore about hiding my name because I was worried about my professional career. Then I got laid off. Then I got hired again. And now…well, I’m a bit less paranoid. So, I’m comfortable enough now to tell you that I share the same first name as the man behind Bon Iver. And unfortunately I also share the same first name with some talentless musical douche whose last name rhymes with “beaver.”
2.We know you've been crying...I mean blogging since 2002, how did you get started?
The 2002 in my blog title is actually the year my first born slid into the world kicking, screaming and peeing on everything that came into view. Thus, the tears. I’ve always enjoyed writing and even minored in it in college, primarily to avoid doing any math. I’ve always been a fan of reading some people’s blogs, I just never got up the nerve to do one of my own primarily because I thought, “who the hell wants to read what I write?
Finally, I asked the wife if I could wear my testicles for a bit, she said yes, I put them on, got up enough nerve, and there you have it – the blog was born. As for the name of the blog…I drank some beers, chased them with a glass of wine, and the name Why Is Daddy Crying popped in my head…the rest has been one hell of a ride. Have you seen my good friend JC Little’s animation based on my blog? This professional animation guru of a lady took a stab at trying to answer that question.
Here’s animation short #1 she created which perfectly captures my fam.
And here’s animation short #2 which nails the exact reason why I’m crying.
Holy mother of all things holy do I HATE snuggies!!!Honestly, I cry because the insanity of family life brings the tears to the eyes, has you biting your lower lip, and often drops you to your knees begging for forgiveness…but what really makes the tears drop from the eyelids and drench my cheeks is my absolute love for those little bastards and my wife.
7. What astrological sign are you and how are you like your sign?
My astrological sign is Cancer with the symbol being the crab...and I sure as shit hope I never get either. I like to think I'm more like the symbol the crab. If you un-earth me I'll be all hyper running sideways doing 50 different things at once while watching every step you make, ultimately praying you don't shove me in a pot of boiling water. And, I'm a bit of a freak-show like the crab because I've got massive Dumbo ears, an award-winning gap in between my two front teeth, and I'm often seen moonwalking to the grocery. My personality is crabby only when you fuck with me too much, or you lie about me or my family. Other than that...I'm a freakin' delight!
Thank you Why is Daddy Crying! Keep being as funny and real as you are. We love you!
To hear more from Why is Daddy Crying, click here!
1. What is your real name or are you forbidden to tell us?
I was pretty hardcore about hiding my name because I was worried about my professional career. Then I got laid off. Then I got hired again. And now…well, I’m a bit less paranoid. So, I’m comfortable enough now to tell you that I share the same first name as the man behind Bon Iver. And unfortunately I also share the same first name with some talentless musical douche whose last name rhymes with “beaver.”
2.We know you've been crying...I mean blogging since 2002, how did you get started?
The 2002 in my blog title is actually the year my first born slid into the world kicking, screaming and peeing on everything that came into view. Thus, the tears. I’ve always enjoyed writing and even minored in it in college, primarily to avoid doing any math. I’ve always been a fan of reading some people’s blogs, I just never got up the nerve to do one of my own primarily because I thought, “who the hell wants to read what I write?
Finally, I asked the wife if I could wear my testicles for a bit, she said yes, I put them on, got up enough nerve, and there you have it – the blog was born. As for the name of the blog…I drank some beers, chased them with a glass of wine, and the name Why Is Daddy Crying popped in my head…the rest has been one hell of a ride. Have you seen my good friend JC Little’s animation based on my blog? This professional animation guru of a lady took a stab at trying to answer that question.
Here’s animation short #1 she created which perfectly captures my fam.
And here’s animation short #2 which nails the exact reason why I’m crying.
Holy mother of all things holy do I HATE snuggies!!!Honestly, I cry because the insanity of family life brings the tears to the eyes, has you biting your lower lip, and often drops you to your knees begging for forgiveness…but what really makes the tears drop from the eyelids and drench my cheeks is my absolute love for those little bastards and my wife.
OK, real honestly? It’s the insanity of family life!
3. Tell us about your kids!
Grayson…the 7 (soon to be 8 in a few weeks)-year-old who’s red hair is fair warning that you better grab your shit and beat-feet the hell outta dodge. He’s a tornado…a brilliant, brilliant, lively tornado.
You’ll be two seconds from wanting to waterboard him, and at the drop of a one-liner, or glimpse of a smile you’ll be holding him with all the love in your heart hoping you’re giving him all the best you can possibly give.
He’s got all my worst qualities, which kills me. But I smile because he’s gotten the best qualities of the wife which makes him a rock star.
The daughter? Well, grab my wife, toss her in some twenty-second-century shrink ray, and BAM!!! you’ve got my daughter. In a nutshell, the first thing she does when she gets home is put her jammies on. She’s funny as hell. Her one-liners motivate a very rare belly-laugh from me. And she’s absolutely knock-out gorgeous. If you are reading this, have a penis, and get within 100 yards of my daughter between now and the time she’s 30, I’ll be forced to have you meet my rusty pair of pliers I carry with me religiously.
My daughter and my son are my heart and my life.
4. Tell us about your wifey!
Well, if my kids are my heart and life…my wife is my soul. We’re high school sweethearts who went to separate colleges, yet continued dating seeing each other about every 6 weeks. Graduated, moved-in together, married the next year in 1997, shot out the first kid in 2002, dropped the next in 2004 – six days shy of them being exactly two years apart.
She’s patient, hard-willed, sexy as hell, beautiful, ball-busting, and the greatest mom I’d ever ask my kids to have. She’s put up with way more than any wife should ever have to.
The only way to sum it all up is that she deserves better, but I thank whoever will listen that I get to spend this life with her.
5. What's the most awesome thing that's happened to you because of blogging?
The continued growth of my readership…people visiting my blog has just blown me away. I love the comments people leave on my blog. Sometimes I wish I could just blog one word, just so I can read people’s comments the rest of the day. So, it’s definitely the people I’m meeting.
But, if I had to pick one of the best it would be JC Little of Little Animation coming out of the woodwork, motivated by my blog, and putting together that incredible animated short.
6. What advice would you give to new dads out there?
Don’t do it!!!!! Put the dick away!!! I don’t know that I have any advice for new dads cause everyone’s ride in fatherhood is completely different.
You’ll laugh, cry, feel like you’re slamming your head in a door for hours, wish a stampede of giraffes would put you out of your misery, and spend hours telling complete strangers how your kid shit all over you at 3:15 a.m.
But it’s the best job in the world and you’ll hopefully love every second.
7. What astrological sign are you and how are you like your sign?
My astrological sign is Cancer with the symbol being the crab...and I sure as shit hope I never get either. I like to think I'm more like the symbol the crab. If you un-earth me I'll be all hyper running sideways doing 50 different things at once while watching every step you make, ultimately praying you don't shove me in a pot of boiling water. And, I'm a bit of a freak-show like the crab because I've got massive Dumbo ears, an award-winning gap in between my two front teeth, and I'm often seen moonwalking to the grocery. My personality is crabby only when you fuck with me too much, or you lie about me or my family. Other than that...I'm a freakin' delight!
Thank you Why is Daddy Crying! Keep being as funny and real as you are. We love you!To hear more from Why is Daddy Crying, click here!
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Real Life Sarah: An Interview
I like my name, Sarah. When I meet other "Sarah's" I always ask them if they have an "h" at the end of their name or not. If they do, we bond instantly.
"With an 'h' or without?" I ask
"With!" New found Sarah replies
"It's the only way to be!" I shoot back.
When I found "Real Life Sarah" online, I didn't need to ask her if the "h" was there, because I saw it with my own eyes. I knew we would be friends.
"With an 'h' or without?" I ask
"With!" New found Sarah replies
"It's the only way to be!" I shoot back.
When I found "Real Life Sarah" online, I didn't need to ask her if the "h" was there, because I saw it with my own eyes. I knew we would be friends.
Our alliance was further confirmed when I saw a video of her shoving baby carrots up her nose.
Sarah is a mom blogger and the host of Mom TV, a popular youtube channel. But I'll let Sarah Pinnix AKA Real Life Sarah tell you the rest!
1. Sarah, Tell us about yourself.
I am a Work at Home Mom of three girls, with a wonderful husband whom I'm thankful for. (NO, you can't have him!) I'm a singing, dancing, slightly wacky, but very friendly person!
2. Tell us about your kids.
Hip Chick (9) is a thoughtful and tender heart. She loves to dance and read, and spend time by herself. How in the world did I give birth to an introvert? Princess (7) is a Live-Out-Loud, out of the box child who loves to make things, design clothes, and laugh incessantly. Little Pea (4.5) is the typical third child! She is sticky sweet and strong as an ox (temperamentally, that is)! She'll steal our heart, but you better not EVER interrupt her! I use these nicknames on the internet to try to shield them from possible humiliation as teens.
3. How did you get started in the world of social media? What did you do before you were a Blogger?
I was a Public School Music Teacher for 4 years after getting a vocal music degree in college. Then, after having my first daughter, I taught private piano and voice lessons. I fell in love with Blogging in 2007, and as my children started school, I wanted to be available for them in the afternoons. So I gave up my music teaching to pursue my passion in web publishing, blogging and video hosting! Always the teacher, I now do workshops and consulting for other bloggers and businesses.
4. What made you choose the name "Real Life Sarah"?
As I was reading blogs in the beginning, I gravitated toward those that were more "real." I get kind of vomit-y when people pretend to be perfect and make everyone else feel inadequate. I also didn't want to constrict my blog to "Mom" stuff; I wanted to include every aspect of life. Then, there is the faith component. I have truly found "Real Life" in my faith in Jesus, and I want to share that with people. I usually don't overtly write about religion or "preach," but I hope that it comes out in everything I do, from making cheap dinners to wiping boogers!
5. What is MomTV?
MomTV.com is a community of moms sharing videos, photos, discussions, and blog posts online. Think of it as the "You Tube" for moms, where everyone has their own "channel." Moms can import their RSS Feeds, Flickr Stream, and You Tube Videos and get to know other moms! You can also embed videos on your blog directly from MomTV, removing the uncertainty in content appropriateness of readers clicking through to You Tube. The super fun thing about MomTV is that they have several LIVE shows each day! Viewers can tune in and chat with the host, ask questions and share tips! It's fun!
6. What do you like about Vlogging?
I love vlogging because it gives you instant personal credibility with each other. Reading a text post, the reader can imagine any inflection, tone, facial expressions the writer might make. In vlogging, you can really get to know the blogger, so that when you read his/her words, you can envision it how the author would say it! Video also gives so much more opportunity for humor! I use facial expressions, voices (and I've been known to wear a wig) when trying to be funny. That would definitely not work with writing!
7. What advice would you give to moms interested in entering the world of blogging/vlogging?
- Read a lot of blogs first, and decide your focus, mission statement and tone. If your blog will have a niche focus, read the blogs in that niche and figure out what NEW element you can bring to the space.
- Choose your name carefully. Google it incessantly to make sure it's original. Remember, presumably it will have to stick with you throughout your life stages so don't box yourself in too much.
- If you are new at vlogging, go visit Jendi at www.simplevloggingtips.com! She is terrific at explaining things from the beginning!
8. Lastly, if you were describe yourself in three words what would they be and why?
- Renaissance (I still can't spell that without looking it up): I am always trying new endeavors.
- Spaztastic: If you're ever around me in real life, you'll know.
- Real: What you see is what you get.
Thanks Real Life Sarah with an "h!" For more information on Sarah Pinnix and MomTV, click here.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Jazz Up Kid's Glasses With Ficklets!
I have to say that I was reluctant to join Twitter. I used to think of Twitter as a silly place to read celebrity gossip. However, since joining I've met some really interesting people and especially fellow moms, one of whom is Ros Guerrero. Ros is the founder of Ficklets, a company that makes fun accessories that attach to kid's glasses.
1. Tell us a little about yourself.
I’m originally from Guam, married to Roy for 16 and half years & have one child, Gem. We love to travel and because of my husband’s previous job, we had the opportunity to travel to Asia & Europe and have lived in the Philippines, Singapore and Dubai.
I’ve always been interested in business – dabbled in real estate investing, co-owned a window treatment design and nail salon business, but my entrepreneurial spirit has soared like never before after learning about my daughter’s disability, which inspired my latest venture, Ficklets.
2. Tell us about your daughter.
My daughter, Gem, is 15 years old and is mentally handicapped. We first learned about her disability when she was 3 years old, so it was important that I was a stay at home mom to help care for her special needs and demands. Gem is about 30% independent and requires full-time assistance and supervision.
Realizing early on that Gem’s work opportunities would be limited, I wanted to create a business that would provide that for her and hopefully give her a sense of “normalcy”. Also, my long-term vision is that our business will provide and support a quality life for Gem after I’m gone.
3. How did you come to create Ficklets? What does the word "Ficklets" mean?
Ficklets is a product I invented in 2007 inspired by Gem. Ficklets are patented interchangeable charm huggers for eyeglasses. Gem has worn glasses since she was six years old. I created Ficklets as a way to jazz up Gem’s plain, tired frames. Ficklets is a made up name derived from the word “fickle”, which means to “change often”. I came up with the name because it appropriately described how much fun Gem and I had changing out her charms. You can read more about how we got started here - http://ficklets.com/info.html.
4. How do you feel that Ficklets will help children who wear glasses?
Initially, I created Ficklets as a way to give Gem’s plain, old frames a fresh and unique look. I also wanted to add some color & whimsy to make them more fun for her. When I launched our website, I started receiving messages from moms saying how Ficklets helped improved their kid’s attitude about their eyeglasses. One mom shared this heartwarming message – “You are my hero! Your Ficklets are THE one thing that makes my four-year-old WANT to wear her glasses! ....”. I didn’t wear glasses as a child, but I’ve learned that for many kids eyeglasses can be quite unpleasant & awkward. It’s gratifying to know that Ficklets helps children feel more comfortable in their eyeglasses and makes the whole experience more enjoyable.
5. Where can we learn more about Ficklets?
Ros has a teenage daughter who has special needs. Her daughter inspired her to create Ficklets. She wanted to jazz up her daughter's glasses.
But wait...let me leave the rest to Ros.
I’m originally from Guam, married to Roy for 16 and half years & have one child, Gem. We love to travel and because of my husband’s previous job, we had the opportunity to travel to Asia & Europe and have lived in the Philippines, Singapore and Dubai.
I’ve always been interested in business – dabbled in real estate investing, co-owned a window treatment design and nail salon business, but my entrepreneurial spirit has soared like never before after learning about my daughter’s disability, which inspired my latest venture, Ficklets.
2. Tell us about your daughter.
My daughter, Gem, is 15 years old and is mentally handicapped. We first learned about her disability when she was 3 years old, so it was important that I was a stay at home mom to help care for her special needs and demands. Gem is about 30% independent and requires full-time assistance and supervision.
Realizing early on that Gem’s work opportunities would be limited, I wanted to create a business that would provide that for her and hopefully give her a sense of “normalcy”. Also, my long-term vision is that our business will provide and support a quality life for Gem after I’m gone.
3. How did you come to create Ficklets? What does the word "Ficklets" mean?
Ficklets is a product I invented in 2007 inspired by Gem. Ficklets are patented interchangeable charm huggers for eyeglasses. Gem has worn glasses since she was six years old. I created Ficklets as a way to jazz up Gem’s plain, tired frames. Ficklets is a made up name derived from the word “fickle”, which means to “change often”. I came up with the name because it appropriately described how much fun Gem and I had changing out her charms. You can read more about how we got started here - http://ficklets.com/info.html.
4. How do you feel that Ficklets will help children who wear glasses?
Initially, I created Ficklets as a way to give Gem’s plain, old frames a fresh and unique look. I also wanted to add some color & whimsy to make them more fun for her. When I launched our website, I started receiving messages from moms saying how Ficklets helped improved their kid’s attitude about their eyeglasses. One mom shared this heartwarming message – “You are my hero! Your Ficklets are THE one thing that makes my four-year-old WANT to wear her glasses! ....”. I didn’t wear glasses as a child, but I’ve learned that for many kids eyeglasses can be quite unpleasant & awkward. It’s gratifying to know that Ficklets helps children feel more comfortable in their eyeglasses and makes the whole experience more enjoyable.
5. Where can we learn more about Ficklets?
If you are interested in purchasing Ficklets for your child, here is a coupon!
*Special offer from Ros to OS/NS Mom Readers: 25% off purchases using code – SF2010.
Expires 12.31.2010
*Special offer from Ros to OS/NS Mom Readers: 25% off purchases using code – SF2010.
Expires 12.31.2010
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Recess Monkey: An Interview With Jack Forman
Over the summer, I had the pleasure of attending a free concert at the Brooklyn Public Library. The band I saw was none other than Seattle's Recess Monkey, creators of unique and fun children's music. The attendees of the concert were as follows: Me, Ari, my mom, my niece (Francesca- age 8), my great friend Josina and her son Nelson.
Josina and I were reflecting the other day on what an amazing time we all had. Recess Monkey had all the children dancing around the BPL auditorium in a conga line! And it was a such a culturally diverse crowd, there were kids from every nationality you could think of there.
One of the things I love about Recess Monkey is that they really get kids. All the band members are teachers, so they are constantly surrounded by children and use their daily interactions with kids as inspiration for their music.
After the concert, I purchased "Field Trip", Recess Monkey's latest album. I've used the music from "Field Trip" in the classroom when I play freeze dance with grades ranging from Pre K- 3rd, and at home when Ari requests a "CD" he is referring to "Field Trip." He loves to dance to "Fort."
I exchanged emails with Jack Forman, Vocals and Bass. Jack is such a cool guy! I occasionally send him videos of Ari rocking out to Recess Monkey and he always responds!
Jack, being the awesome guy that he is, agreed to be interviewed about Recess Monkey for OS/NS Mom. Here's what he had to say:
1. Who are the members of Recess Monkey and what instruments do you each play?
Drew Holloway (Vocals, Guitar)
Daron Henry (Drums, Vocals)
Jack Forman (Bass, Vocals)
Recess Monkey
Left to Right: Drew, Jack, Daron
2. How was Recess Monkey formed?
We all met not as musicians but as fellow teachers- we taught all together for three or four years at University Child Development School before we started to experiment with music. After a few special events at school, we started demoing songs under another band name: The Waiting Room. That band name was pretty apt, actually- it was the way that we prepared for Recess Monkey! It really takes a while to get to know someone else musically- a lot of experiments with songs and conversations and you eventually start to almost read each other's minds.
Once we starting making kids music, we never looked back. I think The Waiting Room played about 6 shows, and Recess Monkey just hit 250. We had talked about kids music for a while, but the main impetus was Drew's: he wrote an album's worth of songs based on the pre-k class that he and another teacher were teaching. We recorded those songs over a few months and started playing shows at tiny coffee shops and bookstores. Over time, the shows increased in size and frequency- and fun!
3. You're all teachers right? What do you teach?
Drew and Jack still teach at University Child Development School- Jack teaches first and second grade and Drew teaches in the full day program, pre-k and Kindergarten. Daron teaches at Spruce Street School.
4. What's the funniest thing a kid has ever said to you in the classroom?
Oh man, this is hard to nail down! Instead of one of the funniest things, can I say one of the weirdest things? A couple of weeks ago a kid in my class said that she and her dad sat in their minivan in the driveway of their house and listened to our hourlong live show on SiriusXM in its entirety. It apparently was just starting as they pulled in and they just sat and listened. Really: it's a total honor to get to make music for kids but never, EVER did we think that our music might delay dinnertime over a national broadcast! Totally unreal!
5. What inspires you to write your songs?
We think of our classrooms as focus groups for what's on kids' minds. It's crazy how many ideas come up over the course of a day that could make great songs. Luckily all Daron and I have to do is tell Drew what we've heard and he takes care of the rest- he's an amazing and PROLIFIC songwriter! Tons of ideas have come up about losing teeth, getting a new backpack, going on field trips and so many more... We like to wordsmith and are bigtime pun fans: on our upcoming space-themed album "The Final Funktier" there's a song about how a booster seat is like a booster rocket. The only thing limiting our output at this point is time :)
6. What do you enjoy the most about making music?
We talk a lot about how much fun it is to get to play live shows- there's such a real energy at our shows that totally undercuts the caricature that Seattle doesn't know how to dance. We see ourselves as just a piece of that puzzle- the energy that kids bring to our shows encourages us to try even harder. I really feel like the laws of gravity change when you get a group of 200 kids dancing!
It's also really fun just to get into a space where you can exchange musical ideas with your bandmates- you start to speak in a different language!
7. What's the coolest thing about Seattle?
Too many things to mention, but it IS worth mentioning that there are an absolute TON of great kids bands in Seattle right now. We're talking with as many of them as we can to think of new ways to collaborate and make this city bounce. This list is just a part of the local scene here and still completely earth shattering: Caspar Babypants, The Not-Its, Johnny Bregar, Brian Vogan, The Brian Waite Band, Board of Education, Eric Ode, Eric Herman, Linda Severt, The Harmonica Pocket and more. People are going crazy for all of these bands and people in other cities are starting to notice that "there's something in the water!"
8. If a child told you he/she wanted to become a rockstar what would you say?
There's that old joke about the guy who asks how to get to Carnegie Hall and the answer is "Practice, practice, practice!" But it's totally true! A friend of ours said the most important thing a few years ago: the best way to get better as a musician is to join a band full of people who are way better than you (it's worked for me!). There is absolutely nothing stopping elementary aged kids from forming their own bands with friends (other than bedtimes) and I've seen some amazing things happen when kids do that. Last year at UCDS a pair of kids rocked out to Journey's "Don't Stop Believing" and it absolutely rocked! There are a number of great kids' music teachers in Seattle who create opportunities for kids to gig in a real way. One of our great friends Rob Hampton who's a really great guitar teacher does this a few times of year at local theaters: kids take the stage with supporting musicians and show their stuff. The other question I hear a lot is about what instrument kids should start on. I don't know if there's a magic formula for musical success, but piano and cello got me off on the right foot. Truly, an instrument you love to play and want to work hard at is waaay better than something that you get no joy out of. My mom says that when I was 4, whenever my cello teacher turned her back, I'd put my little 1/2 sized cello on my knee and play it like a guitar... kind of telling, huh?
Thanks Jack, you rock! And now, my favorite Recess Monkey Song, "Haven't Got A Pet Yet"
For more information on Recess Monkey click here.
Josina and I were reflecting the other day on what an amazing time we all had. Recess Monkey had all the children dancing around the BPL auditorium in a conga line! And it was a such a culturally diverse crowd, there were kids from every nationality you could think of there.
One of the things I love about Recess Monkey is that they really get kids. All the band members are teachers, so they are constantly surrounded by children and use their daily interactions with kids as inspiration for their music.
After the concert, I purchased "Field Trip", Recess Monkey's latest album. I've used the music from "Field Trip" in the classroom when I play freeze dance with grades ranging from Pre K- 3rd, and at home when Ari requests a "CD" he is referring to "Field Trip." He loves to dance to "Fort."
I exchanged emails with Jack Forman, Vocals and Bass. Jack is such a cool guy! I occasionally send him videos of Ari rocking out to Recess Monkey and he always responds!
Jack, being the awesome guy that he is, agreed to be interviewed about Recess Monkey for OS/NS Mom. Here's what he had to say:
1. Who are the members of Recess Monkey and what instruments do you each play?
Drew Holloway (Vocals, Guitar)
Daron Henry (Drums, Vocals)
Jack Forman (Bass, Vocals)
Recess MonkeyLeft to Right: Drew, Jack, Daron
Photo By Kevin Fry
2. How was Recess Monkey formed?
Once we starting making kids music, we never looked back. I think The Waiting Room played about 6 shows, and Recess Monkey just hit 250. We had talked about kids music for a while, but the main impetus was Drew's: he wrote an album's worth of songs based on the pre-k class that he and another teacher were teaching. We recorded those songs over a few months and started playing shows at tiny coffee shops and bookstores. Over time, the shows increased in size and frequency- and fun!
3. You're all teachers right? What do you teach?
4. What's the funniest thing a kid has ever said to you in the classroom?
5. What inspires you to write your songs?
6. What do you enjoy the most about making music?
It's also really fun just to get into a space where you can exchange musical ideas with your bandmates- you start to speak in a different language!
7. What's the coolest thing about Seattle?
8. If a child told you he/she wanted to become a rockstar what would you say?
Thanks Jack, you rock! And now, my favorite Recess Monkey Song, "Haven't Got A Pet Yet"
For more information on Recess Monkey click here.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Sarcastica: An Interview
I love language and word play. When I discovered Sarcastica's blog, I was immediately intrigued. What a creative moniker! Sarcastica is a young mom from Canada. She has just graced her 20's (congratulations to her, I miss that decade so...) and is the proud mama to Nolan. Sarcastica agreed to answer some questions about her motherhood experience. Without further ado, here she is: Sarcastica:
1. What's in a name? Tell us about the name Sarcastica!
The name Sarcastica was thought up by my cousin Karen during a brainstorming session for an online identity. Sarcastica is my "alter ego", the snarky, sarcastic girl that doesn't hold back. In real life, I tend to hush Sarcastica's funny quips because my humor often is misunderstood. Sarcastica stands for that part of me. I used to joke that Sarcastica was my version of Superman, only instead of flying and super strength I've got my sarcastic wit.
2. How long have you been blogging? How did you get started?
I've been blogging since December 2005, 5 years ago...I was 15!!!! My early blog posts are so embarrassing to read, but I love that I still have them and I can see how much I've changed in five years. What I thought was important then and how
I reacted to situations then is so different from now, even my writing style has changed! My cousin Karen (http://karensugarpants.com) got me started on blogging. She knew I loved to write, and thought I would enjoy blogging. Obviously I did because I've been doing it for five years now!
3. How did you react when you found out you were going to be a mom?
I still remember that day like it was yesterday. Our pregnancy was definitely not planned.
I had just started school for Dental Reception and Administration (which I hated and ended up dropping out of) and our lives were so not ready to include a baby. Matt wasn't working and lived in his mom's basement. Both of us were immature and definitely didn't have our heads screwed on right.
I found out I was pregnant September 11th, 2008...I took two home pregnancy tests and was in shock for the next two days. Matt was terrified, especially of my dad's reaction. We knew immediately that abortion was out of the question, that we were going to keep the baby. We told our families within the next week, so everyone knew right off the bat. I was scared out of my ever living tree, there was so much that I didn't know and I had no idea if I was going to be any good at parenting, but as I wrote my morals were strong and I was set on having and raising Nolan from the first time I saw that double line! Read more about this topic here.
4. How were you when you gave birth to Nolan? Tell us your labor story!
2. How long have you been blogging? How did you get started?
I've been blogging since December 2005, 5 years ago...I was 15!!!! My early blog posts are so embarrassing to read, but I love that I still have them and I can see how much I've changed in five years. What I thought was important then and how
I reacted to situations then is so different from now, even my writing style has changed! My cousin Karen (http://karensugarpants.com) got me started on blogging. She knew I loved to write, and thought I would enjoy blogging. Obviously I did because I've been doing it for five years now!
3. How did you react when you found out you were going to be a mom?
I still remember that day like it was yesterday. Our pregnancy was definitely not planned.
I had just started school for Dental Reception and Administration (which I hated and ended up dropping out of) and our lives were so not ready to include a baby. Matt wasn't working and lived in his mom's basement. Both of us were immature and definitely didn't have our heads screwed on right.
I found out I was pregnant September 11th, 2008...I took two home pregnancy tests and was in shock for the next two days. Matt was terrified, especially of my dad's reaction. We knew immediately that abortion was out of the question, that we were going to keep the baby. We told our families within the next week, so everyone knew right off the bat. I was scared out of my ever living tree, there was so much that I didn't know and I had no idea if I was going to be any good at parenting, but as I wrote my morals were strong and I was set on having and raising Nolan from the first time I saw that double line! Read more about this topic here.
4. How were you when you gave birth to Nolan? Tell us your labor story!
I was a high risk pregnancy, so my pregnancy was followed by the high risk program at Mount Sinai hospital in Toronto. On my 37th week appointment (the first day of my 37th week, I might add), just after I saw the doctor filling in for my regular doctor (yep, he was on vacation...go figure) I went into labor while I was sitting in the waiting room, waiting for my ultrasound to see if Nolan was still breech.
It wasn't the kind of labor I saw in movies, with horrible pain that makes you scream and double over. I did have contractions that made it very difficult for me to stand and walk to the bathroom though. I had my ultrasound and it was discovered that my amniotic fluid was low and Nolan was still breech. T the doctors advised me to have a c-section to get him out since my fluid was so low (without my water breaking or anything). I agreed, worried about Nolan (and excited to see him too, I might add), and my c-section was scheduled for 8pm that night.
It was your standard c-section, and I was awake for it so I got to "see" and hear what was going on. Seeing Matt's look on his face when Nolan first cried was priceless, and it made me cry. Matt later described it as "something from Alien vs. Predator", ha! It was apparent that something was wrong with Nolan though, because he wasn't breathing normally.
They took him to NICU and they discovered he had fluid on the lungs, so he spent an additional 2 weeks in the hospital clearing that up. It was hard for me because I didn't really understand what was going on, and I was so worried about him and so disappointed that I couldn't hold him and do skin to skin and try to breastfeed and all that, but I am so thankful that it wasn't a major medical issue. Basically, my main emotions were; happy, thrilled, scared, worried, and anxious, like any new mom!
5. Did you nurse Nolan?
I did nurse Nolan! Since he was in NICU, I pumped ever 2-3 hours solidly for two weeks - my milk supply was INTENSE! When he first came home, he was bottle fed with the milk I pumped. We'd try breastfeeding every meal but he didn't catch on until he was 4 weeks, then we ditched the bottles and I nursed him until he was about four months old. I had to go in for an operation in Toronto and unfortunately the pain killers (and the depression/anxiety of being separated from him) made my milk dry right up. When I got home I had a lot of recovering to do and couldn't handle his weight on my hip so we didn't try again, plus he was comfortable on the bottles and formula. I wish I could have nursed him longer but I'm glad that I was able to for the four months!
6. What is the hardest thing about being a mom?
The hardest thing about being a mom for me is the knowledge that Nolan has inherited my bone disorder (Multiple Hereditary Exostoses) and may be faced with several surgeries over the course of his youth (and adulthood). No mom likes to see her child in pain, and I feel guilty knowing that he will have pain in his future and surgeries. At the same time I am grateful that I know what to expect from this disorder and that it is not a life threatening one. Another hard thing about being a mom is the decisions! There are so many of them and I sometimes get over whelmed. Luckily I have a wonderful support group that I can turn to for the decisions that really boggle my mind!
7. What is the best thing about being a mom?
The best thing about being a mom is seeing Nolan learn new things every day and I experience all of his firsts with him! There are so many things that I love about being a mom, I don't even think I could list them all! It is so awesome that I get to teach this child and help him grow up to be the best person he can be! And of course I love the goober kisses he plants on my cheek each morning!
7. What advice would you offer to young moms like yourself?
Be prepared for your entire life to change, it's a great and wonderful thing! Try not to have your mind set against breastfeeding, so many young moms are afraid of it and therefore against it and it was the best thing I could have done! My bond with Nolan is so strong and I enjoyed nursing him so much, I miss it even now!
[Baby] clothes don't have to be bought brand new at fancy stores, I find a lot of adorable new outfits at consignment store for half the price and Nolan still looks amazing! Be sure to be patient and mindful; babies cry because that's how they communicate, don't take it personally and don't let it damper your mood or day. Having a baby doesn't mean your social life stops, but it does change a lot. And...patience takes lots of practice! Oh, and don't let someone else tell you what's right for your baby. Listen to advice, process it, and make your own decisions! Sometimes people can be helpful and teach you things you didn't know, so don't be completely against help!
8. Do you love Canada?
I definitely LOVE Canada! I can't imagine living anywhere else. I am grateful for our health care system and for bacon.
To read more from Sarcastica, visit her blog by clicking on her picture below!
It wasn't the kind of labor I saw in movies, with horrible pain that makes you scream and double over. I did have contractions that made it very difficult for me to stand and walk to the bathroom though. I had my ultrasound and it was discovered that my amniotic fluid was low and Nolan was still breech. T the doctors advised me to have a c-section to get him out since my fluid was so low (without my water breaking or anything). I agreed, worried about Nolan (and excited to see him too, I might add), and my c-section was scheduled for 8pm that night.
It was your standard c-section, and I was awake for it so I got to "see" and hear what was going on. Seeing Matt's look on his face when Nolan first cried was priceless, and it made me cry. Matt later described it as "something from Alien vs. Predator", ha! It was apparent that something was wrong with Nolan though, because he wasn't breathing normally.
They took him to NICU and they discovered he had fluid on the lungs, so he spent an additional 2 weeks in the hospital clearing that up. It was hard for me because I didn't really understand what was going on, and I was so worried about him and so disappointed that I couldn't hold him and do skin to skin and try to breastfeed and all that, but I am so thankful that it wasn't a major medical issue. Basically, my main emotions were; happy, thrilled, scared, worried, and anxious, like any new mom!
5. Did you nurse Nolan?
I did nurse Nolan! Since he was in NICU, I pumped ever 2-3 hours solidly for two weeks - my milk supply was INTENSE! When he first came home, he was bottle fed with the milk I pumped. We'd try breastfeeding every meal but he didn't catch on until he was 4 weeks, then we ditched the bottles and I nursed him until he was about four months old. I had to go in for an operation in Toronto and unfortunately the pain killers (and the depression/anxiety of being separated from him) made my milk dry right up. When I got home I had a lot of recovering to do and couldn't handle his weight on my hip so we didn't try again, plus he was comfortable on the bottles and formula. I wish I could have nursed him longer but I'm glad that I was able to for the four months!
6. What is the hardest thing about being a mom?
The hardest thing about being a mom for me is the knowledge that Nolan has inherited my bone disorder (Multiple Hereditary Exostoses) and may be faced with several surgeries over the course of his youth (and adulthood). No mom likes to see her child in pain, and I feel guilty knowing that he will have pain in his future and surgeries. At the same time I am grateful that I know what to expect from this disorder and that it is not a life threatening one. Another hard thing about being a mom is the decisions! There are so many of them and I sometimes get over whelmed. Luckily I have a wonderful support group that I can turn to for the decisions that really boggle my mind!
7. What is the best thing about being a mom?
The best thing about being a mom is seeing Nolan learn new things every day and I experience all of his firsts with him! There are so many things that I love about being a mom, I don't even think I could list them all! It is so awesome that I get to teach this child and help him grow up to be the best person he can be! And of course I love the goober kisses he plants on my cheek each morning!
7. What advice would you offer to young moms like yourself?
Be prepared for your entire life to change, it's a great and wonderful thing! Try not to have your mind set against breastfeeding, so many young moms are afraid of it and therefore against it and it was the best thing I could have done! My bond with Nolan is so strong and I enjoyed nursing him so much, I miss it even now!
[Baby] clothes don't have to be bought brand new at fancy stores, I find a lot of adorable new outfits at consignment store for half the price and Nolan still looks amazing! Be sure to be patient and mindful; babies cry because that's how they communicate, don't take it personally and don't let it damper your mood or day. Having a baby doesn't mean your social life stops, but it does change a lot. And...patience takes lots of practice! Oh, and don't let someone else tell you what's right for your baby. Listen to advice, process it, and make your own decisions! Sometimes people can be helpful and teach you things you didn't know, so don't be completely against help!
8. Do you love Canada?
I definitely LOVE Canada! I can't imagine living anywhere else. I am grateful for our health care system and for bacon.
To read more from Sarcastica, visit her blog by clicking on her picture below!
Note, Sarcastica now blogs as Jessi @ Notes of Life and Love. Click below for her new blog:
Sunday, March 7, 2010
BernThis! An Interview With Jessica Bern
When I became a mom, I was forced to come to a harsh realization: just because you've had a child (as I have) does not mean we can automatically be friends. I've had a hard time finding mom friends that I connected with.
Similar to my "real life" experience, I've also had a hard time finding mom blogs that I like. When I do find one, I latch onto it like a nursing babe.
This is how I feel about Jessica Bern's blog, Bernthis.
I love this woman. Guess where she's from? One of my favorite countries: Canada!
She created the "Bernthis web series" which are hilarious anecdotes from her life. One of my favorites is called "Born Stupid." It's about the fact that she is the youngest sibling in her family and the dumbest. She became an actress, while her sister became a pediatric gastroenterologist.
Ms. Bern agreed to answer a few questions for us about her life and blog. I'll let Jessica reveal the rest! Here's what she had to say:
1. Jessica, you're funny. Do you think being a younger sibling had anything to do with the fact that you're hilarious?
My place in the birth order only solidified that I was bound to be the dumbest in my family, according to an article in Time magazine. My webisode, "Born Stupid" was based on this premise and sadly it seems to be true. My sister is a pediatric gastroentorologist (I've now tried to spell that three times and I still haven't gotten it right). My middle sister has a masters in public health from John's Hopkins and then there is me, the blogger. Can you hear my parent's crying right now? I can.
2. What inspired you to create the "Bernthis Web Series?" Tell us about it?
The web series came about because I'd written these essays about my divorce and someone suggested turning them into videos. At that time, my career in advertising had cooled quite a bit as it seems, an angry, bitter about to be divorcee wasn't very "hot" at the time and I figured why not, so I hired an amazing director/editor and off we went.
3. Describe Phoebe, your daughter, in three words, what would they be and why?
Phoebe in three words: (is this a family friendly site?) kidding. actually, I'm not. No, really, I am...a liar, that is.....okay, sorry, I got off track there. Phoebe in three words? Outgoing, energetic, Gives up too easily. How many is that? 6? okay, any chance you could squish the last four together into one word? Yeah, okay, hmmm, three words: Outgoing, energetic, empathetic.
4. If you were forced to teach children, what grade would you teach and why?
4. Forced, would be the correct word, as technically, I'm not really a kid person. I love mine but chances are yours will annoy me, especially if I'm trying to talk to their mother and they start whining over stupid things like how they haven't been fed in three days or they're not feeling well, even though they haven't puked in well over an hour. You know, stuff like that. However, if I had to pick a grade I would say I would choose fifth or sixth grade. At that stage they still have and iota of respect authority and you can have the greatest impact on them. By age 12, the hormones kick in and well, God help us all.
5. Do you love Canada?
I love Canada. I was Canadian until 2000. I would love it a lot more if the draft was reinstated, that I can say for sure. I love the people there. I do. Especially now that my uncie is gone. He was a total asshole to my dad and ever since he kicked it the nice factor in Montreal alone has grown exponentially.
6. Why do you hate cottage cheese?
I don't hate cottage cheese. Cottage cheese if you can hear me, I mean that. I just don't have the desire to eat four pounds of it a day like I did when I first found the lactose free version.
7. You're Jewish, right?
I am Jewish, yes. I have great admiration for all my people have been through although I will never get over the fact that if they'd only had a few more minutes, I wouldn't have to give up pasta for 8 days straight and we wouldn't have to deal with all this "Kosher for Passover, warning, it's tasteless" stuff at all.
8. Where in Canada are you from?
I was born in Toronto although with my mouth you'd start to wonder if Toronto was a small island located in the middle of Brooklyn.
9. Did you move from Canada to southern cali in 2000?
I came to the US when I was almost two years old. It was hard. I was really close with a lot of 16 month olds I met in this one playgroup. Great bunch of folks. I think what I miss most about that is our game night. We played, "puke on the most expensive thing in your house." It was hilarious although our parents never seemed to find the "funny" in it.
10. What astrological sign are you?
I'm a Cancer. I had a one out of twelve shot that I would be born under a sign that would remind people of the loss of a loved one every time I said it and yay me, I "won". Vegas, here I come. I'm thinking of taking the title to my home and putting it on "red."
And now, for your viewing pleasure, here is "Born Stupid" from the Bernthis web series!
To read Jessica's blog or watch more of the Bernthis web series, click on the burnt toast below!
Similar to my "real life" experience, I've also had a hard time finding mom blogs that I like. When I do find one, I latch onto it like a nursing babe.
This is how I feel about Jessica Bern's blog, Bernthis.
I love this woman. Guess where she's from? One of my favorite countries: Canada!She created the "Bernthis web series" which are hilarious anecdotes from her life. One of my favorites is called "Born Stupid." It's about the fact that she is the youngest sibling in her family and the dumbest. She became an actress, while her sister became a pediatric gastroenterologist.
Ms. Bern agreed to answer a few questions for us about her life and blog. I'll let Jessica reveal the rest! Here's what she had to say:
1. Jessica, you're funny. Do you think being a younger sibling had anything to do with the fact that you're hilarious?
My place in the birth order only solidified that I was bound to be the dumbest in my family, according to an article in Time magazine. My webisode, "Born Stupid" was based on this premise and sadly it seems to be true. My sister is a pediatric gastroentorologist (I've now tried to spell that three times and I still haven't gotten it right). My middle sister has a masters in public health from John's Hopkins and then there is me, the blogger. Can you hear my parent's crying right now? I can.
2. What inspired you to create the "Bernthis Web Series?" Tell us about it?
The web series came about because I'd written these essays about my divorce and someone suggested turning them into videos. At that time, my career in advertising had cooled quite a bit as it seems, an angry, bitter about to be divorcee wasn't very "hot" at the time and I figured why not, so I hired an amazing director/editor and off we went.
3. Describe Phoebe, your daughter, in three words, what would they be and why?
Phoebe in three words: (is this a family friendly site?) kidding. actually, I'm not. No, really, I am...a liar, that is.....okay, sorry, I got off track there. Phoebe in three words? Outgoing, energetic, Gives up too easily. How many is that? 6? okay, any chance you could squish the last four together into one word? Yeah, okay, hmmm, three words: Outgoing, energetic, empathetic.
4. If you were forced to teach children, what grade would you teach and why?
4. Forced, would be the correct word, as technically, I'm not really a kid person. I love mine but chances are yours will annoy me, especially if I'm trying to talk to their mother and they start whining over stupid things like how they haven't been fed in three days or they're not feeling well, even though they haven't puked in well over an hour. You know, stuff like that. However, if I had to pick a grade I would say I would choose fifth or sixth grade. At that stage they still have and iota of respect authority and you can have the greatest impact on them. By age 12, the hormones kick in and well, God help us all.
5. Do you love Canada?
I love Canada. I was Canadian until 2000. I would love it a lot more if the draft was reinstated, that I can say for sure. I love the people there. I do. Especially now that my uncie is gone. He was a total asshole to my dad and ever since he kicked it the nice factor in Montreal alone has grown exponentially.
6. Why do you hate cottage cheese?
I don't hate cottage cheese. Cottage cheese if you can hear me, I mean that. I just don't have the desire to eat four pounds of it a day like I did when I first found the lactose free version.
7. You're Jewish, right?
I am Jewish, yes. I have great admiration for all my people have been through although I will never get over the fact that if they'd only had a few more minutes, I wouldn't have to give up pasta for 8 days straight and we wouldn't have to deal with all this "Kosher for Passover, warning, it's tasteless" stuff at all.
8. Where in Canada are you from?
I was born in Toronto although with my mouth you'd start to wonder if Toronto was a small island located in the middle of Brooklyn.
9. Did you move from Canada to southern cali in 2000?
I came to the US when I was almost two years old. It was hard. I was really close with a lot of 16 month olds I met in this one playgroup. Great bunch of folks. I think what I miss most about that is our game night. We played, "puke on the most expensive thing in your house." It was hilarious although our parents never seemed to find the "funny" in it.
10. What astrological sign are you?
I'm a Cancer. I had a one out of twelve shot that I would be born under a sign that would remind people of the loss of a loved one every time I said it and yay me, I "won". Vegas, here I come. I'm thinking of taking the title to my home and putting it on "red."
And now, for your viewing pleasure, here is "Born Stupid" from the Bernthis web series!
To read Jessica's blog or watch more of the Bernthis web series, click on the burnt toast below!
Friday, March 5, 2010
What is Mastocytisis? An Interview With Tara Goonan
My friend Tara inspired me to become a mother. She is just as anxious and crazy as I am, but she is also a hilariously funny, intelligent and wonderful woman. She had a baby, Liam, and made motherhood look possible to a neurotic character like me.
We became friends when we worked together as Vocational Counselors in a residential drug treatment center.
When Liam was 5 months old, I became pregnant with Ari.
Liam, who is now 2 1/2 years old, was diagnosed with mastocytisis. It is a rare condition, and can be quite severe in some cases.
Tara talks about her experience with Liam, and the road to diagnosis.
1. What is mastocytisis?
Mastocytosis, or in Liam's case cutaneous mastocytosis, is a rare condition. Some medical persons refer to it as an "orphan disease" due to the small number of the population effected by it. It effects "mast cells", which are also part of our immune cells and help us fight infection. It is therefore considered a hematologic illness.
Most mast cells are found in the skin, digestive system and airway linings.
When these cells are aggravated or triggered, they release histamine into the body. Allergy reducers such as Claritin or Zyrtec can be referred to as "histamine blockers", and we are talking about one in the same fluid. This fluid, or substance, can irritate the airways, digestive system, and skin. When young children are diagnosed with this condition, it appears on their skin in the form of painful blisters. (i.e the cutaneous part).
2. When did you suspect that something was "wrong" with Liam? What were his symptoms?
Liam was born with beautiful, porcelain white skin and dark red hair. As he progressed in age (at around 7 or 8 months) I began noticing what looked like dry patches of skin on his back. I figured due to the sensitivity of his fair skin, he needed more lotion, less baths (every other day), and fragrance free products. The marks continued to grow, and I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong. I started with the local pediatrician, who kept reinforcing the whole "eczema" idea, although these marks looked fixed, and almost as if they were part of his skin. Not like a rash. It wasn't until his scalp was filled with oozing blisters, which were painful to the touch, that I knew something else had to be done. This was no cradle cap. He was a year of age when I saw his first dermatologist, who was unfortunately just as baffled as the pediatrician.
3. How did you arrive at the diagnosis of mastocytisis?
Thankfully, my mother, who has been my saving grace over these last few years, was able to find the diagnosis herself. She is a retired RN, who dealt with many pediatric cases during her career. After extensive research, she was the one directing the dermatologist. A skin biopsy was ordered, and we were able to pin point the diagnosis.
4. When you found out Liam had mastocytisis, how did you feel?
I guess I was concerned at first that I had done something wrong for my baby to have this disease, but in every medical article, I could find no direct cause linked to such a diagnosis. Anyone doing research will find that there is really not that much information out there, and parents of children effected by this illness will understand that awareness is key. This condition needs to be brought to light and discussed more within our pediatric and dermatological medical communities. I think my next feeling was the fear that people would not understand the disease and ostracize my son if he happened to have a outbreak at school or in public. I can say right now that I have been one of the luckier ones because his beautiful face remains unaffected; but we all know how judgmental society is, and I want to arm him with the tools to never have to feel bad about how he looks.
5. What does Liam need to do to lead a healthy lifestyle?
We monitor his condition through proper diet (avoiding what we have found to be trigger foods- in Liam's case pork, spinach, and larger amounts of chocolate. There is some current suspicion as well with acidic foods (particularly citrus) which I am still investigating with him through trial and error) He takes antihistamines daily, and we have found some great home based solutions (because steroidal creams are always recommended by doctors) to maintain his skin. There are some good resources out there such as the mastocytosis society, as well as mastokids.org which provide helpful hints.
6. How do you help Liam deal with his diagnosis?
I am about awareness to make sure that Liam's community, whether it be school, family or friends are aware of his condition and the fact that it is not contagious, nor will it ever be. I try to provide my son with enough love and affection that even if there are people who chose to remain ignorant out there, he will have the strength to not let it affect him.
To learn more about mastocytosis, visit these links below:
Mastocytosis Society
MastoKids
We became friends when we worked together as Vocational Counselors in a residential drug treatment center.
When Liam was 5 months old, I became pregnant with Ari.
Liam, who is now 2 1/2 years old, was diagnosed with mastocytisis. It is a rare condition, and can be quite severe in some cases.
Tara talks about her experience with Liam, and the road to diagnosis.
1. What is mastocytisis?
Mastocytosis, or in Liam's case cutaneous mastocytosis, is a rare condition. Some medical persons refer to it as an "orphan disease" due to the small number of the population effected by it. It effects "mast cells", which are also part of our immune cells and help us fight infection. It is therefore considered a hematologic illness.
Most mast cells are found in the skin, digestive system and airway linings.
When these cells are aggravated or triggered, they release histamine into the body. Allergy reducers such as Claritin or Zyrtec can be referred to as "histamine blockers", and we are talking about one in the same fluid. This fluid, or substance, can irritate the airways, digestive system, and skin. When young children are diagnosed with this condition, it appears on their skin in the form of painful blisters. (i.e the cutaneous part).
2. When did you suspect that something was "wrong" with Liam? What were his symptoms?
Liam was born with beautiful, porcelain white skin and dark red hair. As he progressed in age (at around 7 or 8 months) I began noticing what looked like dry patches of skin on his back. I figured due to the sensitivity of his fair skin, he needed more lotion, less baths (every other day), and fragrance free products. The marks continued to grow, and I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong. I started with the local pediatrician, who kept reinforcing the whole "eczema" idea, although these marks looked fixed, and almost as if they were part of his skin. Not like a rash. It wasn't until his scalp was filled with oozing blisters, which were painful to the touch, that I knew something else had to be done. This was no cradle cap. He was a year of age when I saw his first dermatologist, who was unfortunately just as baffled as the pediatrician.
3. How did you arrive at the diagnosis of mastocytisis?
Thankfully, my mother, who has been my saving grace over these last few years, was able to find the diagnosis herself. She is a retired RN, who dealt with many pediatric cases during her career. After extensive research, she was the one directing the dermatologist. A skin biopsy was ordered, and we were able to pin point the diagnosis.
4. When you found out Liam had mastocytisis, how did you feel?
I guess I was concerned at first that I had done something wrong for my baby to have this disease, but in every medical article, I could find no direct cause linked to such a diagnosis. Anyone doing research will find that there is really not that much information out there, and parents of children effected by this illness will understand that awareness is key. This condition needs to be brought to light and discussed more within our pediatric and dermatological medical communities. I think my next feeling was the fear that people would not understand the disease and ostracize my son if he happened to have a outbreak at school or in public. I can say right now that I have been one of the luckier ones because his beautiful face remains unaffected; but we all know how judgmental society is, and I want to arm him with the tools to never have to feel bad about how he looks.
5. What does Liam need to do to lead a healthy lifestyle?
We monitor his condition through proper diet (avoiding what we have found to be trigger foods- in Liam's case pork, spinach, and larger amounts of chocolate. There is some current suspicion as well with acidic foods (particularly citrus) which I am still investigating with him through trial and error) He takes antihistamines daily, and we have found some great home based solutions (because steroidal creams are always recommended by doctors) to maintain his skin. There are some good resources out there such as the mastocytosis society, as well as mastokids.org which provide helpful hints.
6. How do you help Liam deal with his diagnosis?
I am about awareness to make sure that Liam's community, whether it be school, family or friends are aware of his condition and the fact that it is not contagious, nor will it ever be. I try to provide my son with enough love and affection that even if there are people who chose to remain ignorant out there, he will have the strength to not let it affect him.
To learn more about mastocytosis, visit these links below:
Mastocytosis Society
MastoKids
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
The Familiars- A Magical Children's Book
I have so many internet friends and I love them all. I recently joined Twitter, and found that "The Familiars" were following me. If you don't know about Twitter, this just means that "The Familiars" are aware of when I've written a new blog post or when I have something fantastic to report about my burgeoning writing career.
I was really intrigued by "The Familiars" profile picture.
I am a cat lover and there was this adorable tuxedo cat looking straight at me. I wrote to "The Familiars" to learn more. Then I found out the "The Familiars" is children's book! It's a fantasy based book about magical animals who help to save the day! I don't know about you, but I wanted to know more. Thankfully, Adam Jay Epstein and Andrew Jacobson allowed this persistent Jewish mother and blogger to interview them about their book!
1. What is "The Familiars" about?
After three young wizard apprentices are kidnapped by the evil queen of a distant land, it is up to their familiars, their magical animal companions -- a street smart alley cat, a precocious blue jay, and a bumbling tree frog -- to save them.
The story of "The Familiars" began with a question:
“Are you familiar with what a familiar is?” Adam asked Andrew.
“No,” Andrew replied.
“A familiar is the animal companion to a wizard or witch,” Adam explained.
From that one seed of an idea, Vastia was born, a fantastical world filled with the authors’ shared love of animals and magic. What if these animals, typically relegated to the background, went on an adventure of their own? A few of the other specifics fell into place quickly. The protagonist would be an alley cat – much like the stray who had taken up residence in Adam’s backyard – black and white with a chunk missing from its ear. We were inspired by the fantasy literature, movies, and video games we grew up loving – Tolkien, Piers Anthony, D & D, the old Harryhausen films. But never before had we seen a fellowship of magical animals on a quest like this one!
2. Tell us about Andrew and Adam!
Adam Jay Epstein spent his childhood in Great Neck, New York, while Andrew Jacobson grew up in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, but the two met in a parking garage out in Los Angeles. We have been writing for film and television together ever since. This is our first book.
Adam Jay Epstein lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Jane, their two daughters, Penny and Olive, and a black-and-white alley cat who hangs out in their backyard. Andrew Jacobson lives with his soon-to-be-wife, Ashley, and their dog, Elvis, four traffic lights away.
The story of the writing of this book is much like the story of "The Familiars" itself: one of friendship and how teamwork can yield greater rewards than an adventure taken alone.
3. What audience does "The Familiars" appeal to?
We wrote this book for fantasy lovers of all ages, from middle readers and YA fans to any adult who loves animals or magic. We hope to capture the imaginations of fans of “Harry Potter,” “Lord of the Rings,” and “The Warriors.”
4. What are the messages you want to communicate to children in your book?
The theme of The Familiars is self worth – exploring the universal question of am I special? Like so many origin stories, our main hero, Aldwyn – the alley cat from Bridgetower – believes himself to be ordinary. But like Luke Skywalker, Frodo Baggins, or Harry Potter, Aldwyn discovers that there is in fact something extraordinary inside him. When Aldwyn is chosen as a familiar, he sees himself as nothing more than a talentless orphan with nothing to offer. But by the story’s end, he has confronted his own self-doubt and realized that he doesn’t have to be magical to be special.
5.Do you have any pictures to share?
Here is a picture of the alley cat - Ben - that lives in Adam's backyard. Cover coming soon!
6. When can we look for "The Familiars" in stores?
Amazon says September 7, 2010!
Thanks A&A! I can't wait to read you book!
I was really intrigued by "The Familiars" profile picture.
I am a cat lover and there was this adorable tuxedo cat looking straight at me. I wrote to "The Familiars" to learn more. Then I found out the "The Familiars" is children's book! It's a fantasy based book about magical animals who help to save the day! I don't know about you, but I wanted to know more. Thankfully, Adam Jay Epstein and Andrew Jacobson allowed this persistent Jewish mother and blogger to interview them about their book!
1. What is "The Familiars" about?
After three young wizard apprentices are kidnapped by the evil queen of a distant land, it is up to their familiars, their magical animal companions -- a street smart alley cat, a precocious blue jay, and a bumbling tree frog -- to save them.
The story of "The Familiars" began with a question:
“Are you familiar with what a familiar is?” Adam asked Andrew.
“No,” Andrew replied.
“A familiar is the animal companion to a wizard or witch,” Adam explained.
From that one seed of an idea, Vastia was born, a fantastical world filled with the authors’ shared love of animals and magic. What if these animals, typically relegated to the background, went on an adventure of their own? A few of the other specifics fell into place quickly. The protagonist would be an alley cat – much like the stray who had taken up residence in Adam’s backyard – black and white with a chunk missing from its ear. We were inspired by the fantasy literature, movies, and video games we grew up loving – Tolkien, Piers Anthony, D & D, the old Harryhausen films. But never before had we seen a fellowship of magical animals on a quest like this one!
2. Tell us about Andrew and Adam!
Adam Jay Epstein spent his childhood in Great Neck, New York, while Andrew Jacobson grew up in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, but the two met in a parking garage out in Los Angeles. We have been writing for film and television together ever since. This is our first book.
Adam Jay Epstein lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Jane, their two daughters, Penny and Olive, and a black-and-white alley cat who hangs out in their backyard. Andrew Jacobson lives with his soon-to-be-wife, Ashley, and their dog, Elvis, four traffic lights away.
The story of the writing of this book is much like the story of "The Familiars" itself: one of friendship and how teamwork can yield greater rewards than an adventure taken alone.
3. What audience does "The Familiars" appeal to?
We wrote this book for fantasy lovers of all ages, from middle readers and YA fans to any adult who loves animals or magic. We hope to capture the imaginations of fans of “Harry Potter,” “Lord of the Rings,” and “The Warriors.”
4. What are the messages you want to communicate to children in your book?
The theme of The Familiars is self worth – exploring the universal question of am I special? Like so many origin stories, our main hero, Aldwyn – the alley cat from Bridgetower – believes himself to be ordinary. But like Luke Skywalker, Frodo Baggins, or Harry Potter, Aldwyn discovers that there is in fact something extraordinary inside him. When Aldwyn is chosen as a familiar, he sees himself as nothing more than a talentless orphan with nothing to offer. But by the story’s end, he has confronted his own self-doubt and realized that he doesn’t have to be magical to be special.
5.Do you have any pictures to share?
Here is a picture of the alley cat - Ben - that lives in Adam's backyard. Cover coming soon!
6. When can we look for "The Familiars" in stores?
Amazon says September 7, 2010!
Thanks A&A! I can't wait to read you book!
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
On Open Adoption: Harriet From "See Theo Run" Speaks
The other day, I came across Harriet's blog, See Theo Run. Harriet, her husband and their baby Theo live in Vancouver B.C. Canada. They are parents in an open adoption. They adopted Theo at birth. They maintain a strong relationship with Theo's birth family. Harriet writes about the adoption process and her journey to motherhood and beyond on her blog, See Theo Run.
I know virtually nothing about adoption, so I asked if Harriet might shed some light on the adoption process for me, and her personal journey to motherhood. Here's what she had to say:
1. What made you decide to adopt a baby?
We could not have a baby by birth confirmed by visits to a fertility clinic, and once we were sure of this, we immediately agreed that adoption was for us. We did not pursue IVF. It's a wonderful option for many but it did not feel right for us. We went with our gut and knew that adoption was our way. We are a mixed race couple living in a multicultural neighborhood and felt we could parent and support a child of almost any [cultural background]. It's worth noting that I had worked for a non-profit adoption organization in the past so I was well-versed in the process, and had always maintained an interest in adopting.
2. What steps did you take to adopt Theo?
The biggest and most important step was the decision to adopt with full commitment and faith in the journey. We contacted several adoption agencies (there are only six in BC and two in the Vancouver area). I was interested in adopting through the Ministry for Children and Families but my husband was not keen on that route. It was really important that we both be comfortable for our decision so we approached several agencies. We went with our gut on which agency to use. After meeting face-to-face with a social worker who we immediately took too - we loved the way she listened to us- we signed up with the agency. At this point, we were interested in intercountry adoption mistakenly believing we would never be successful locally. In local adoption, a birth mother or birth parents select you from hundreds of other profiles. Before any of that was to occur, we had a series of visits from a social worker to assess our fitness to adopt (the home study), which took about 6 months to be written up and signed off. We then registered to adopt from the tiny African kingdom of Lesotho, which didn't pan out. At this stage, we threw our profiles into the local adoption pool and immediately got a phone call saying a birth mother and her dad wanted to meet us. I have written about this extensively on my blog: the shock, the fear, the sheer awkwardness of the initial visit and the surreal nature of the second visit with the birth dad and birth grandmother and later visits with the birth parents including dinner and a movie. Two months after our initial visit, Theo was born and placed in our arms at the hospital with a room full of birth relatives, nurses and a social worker. The passing over of Theo to us was the most emotional and strange event of my life.
3. When Theo gets older, how will you address the adoption issue?
We are in an open adoption, and Theo does not look like us so he will figure out pretty quickly that he wasn't born to us. But that is not really the point. At this stage (7 months), we are introducing words, names and phrases to him so they register. We have regular visits with his birth family but he does not really understand who they are so we say things directly to him such as: "We're going to visit your birth mom today." "You are so cute; you look just like your birth dad: Kyle," or "You got your wild hair from your birth grandpa," or "I think you're going to be chatty like your birth grandma!" In terms of the story of his birth and adoption, we will piece it together for him as we go. We have hundreds of photos from the hospital and I have blogged about our feelings on that day. I do not think the penny will really drop for him until he's between 6 and 9 when the really hard questions will come. Our hope is that by nurturing an ongoing relationship with his extended birth family and supporting this with explanations and stories about adoption that his situation will simply be normal for him by the time he starts to seriously question his identity.
4. What advice would you offer to a couple or a person who wants to adopt a child?
You need to be 100% committed to adoption and it should be your number one choice for creating a family. This needs to be true in your heart and not just another option or last resort. You should tell everyone you know that you cannot have children by birth and that you are embarking on an adoption journey. If adoption is a secret for you, you might want to examine why that is. Tell family and friends that you do not know how long it will take but you are committed to this path and appreciate their support. You will be amazed at how many people get excited for you. You will also receive naive, hurtful or invasive comments. It's best to face those now rather than later. We also had family say "but you're still trying right?" when we had been told unequivocally that we could not have children. It can take family time to come round - they are still attached to replicating their gene pool. On the plus side, my father-in-law, who said those very words, is baby Theo's biggest fan and spends the most time with him outside of my husband and me.
One last thing, adoption can take a long time, be highly emotional, but with patience, perseverance and faith in the process, you will be successful.
To read more about Harriet's adventures in motherhood visit her blog See Theo Run.
I know virtually nothing about adoption, so I asked if Harriet might shed some light on the adoption process for me, and her personal journey to motherhood. Here's what she had to say:
1. What made you decide to adopt a baby?
We could not have a baby by birth confirmed by visits to a fertility clinic, and once we were sure of this, we immediately agreed that adoption was for us. We did not pursue IVF. It's a wonderful option for many but it did not feel right for us. We went with our gut and knew that adoption was our way. We are a mixed race couple living in a multicultural neighborhood and felt we could parent and support a child of almost any [cultural background]. It's worth noting that I had worked for a non-profit adoption organization in the past so I was well-versed in the process, and had always maintained an interest in adopting.
2. What steps did you take to adopt Theo?
The biggest and most important step was the decision to adopt with full commitment and faith in the journey. We contacted several adoption agencies (there are only six in BC and two in the Vancouver area). I was interested in adopting through the Ministry for Children and Families but my husband was not keen on that route. It was really important that we both be comfortable for our decision so we approached several agencies. We went with our gut on which agency to use. After meeting face-to-face with a social worker who we immediately took too - we loved the way she listened to us- we signed up with the agency. At this point, we were interested in intercountry adoption mistakenly believing we would never be successful locally. In local adoption, a birth mother or birth parents select you from hundreds of other profiles. Before any of that was to occur, we had a series of visits from a social worker to assess our fitness to adopt (the home study), which took about 6 months to be written up and signed off. We then registered to adopt from the tiny African kingdom of Lesotho, which didn't pan out. At this stage, we threw our profiles into the local adoption pool and immediately got a phone call saying a birth mother and her dad wanted to meet us. I have written about this extensively on my blog: the shock, the fear, the sheer awkwardness of the initial visit and the surreal nature of the second visit with the birth dad and birth grandmother and later visits with the birth parents including dinner and a movie. Two months after our initial visit, Theo was born and placed in our arms at the hospital with a room full of birth relatives, nurses and a social worker. The passing over of Theo to us was the most emotional and strange event of my life.
3. When Theo gets older, how will you address the adoption issue?
We are in an open adoption, and Theo does not look like us so he will figure out pretty quickly that he wasn't born to us. But that is not really the point. At this stage (7 months), we are introducing words, names and phrases to him so they register. We have regular visits with his birth family but he does not really understand who they are so we say things directly to him such as: "We're going to visit your birth mom today." "You are so cute; you look just like your birth dad: Kyle," or "You got your wild hair from your birth grandpa," or "I think you're going to be chatty like your birth grandma!" In terms of the story of his birth and adoption, we will piece it together for him as we go. We have hundreds of photos from the hospital and I have blogged about our feelings on that day. I do not think the penny will really drop for him until he's between 6 and 9 when the really hard questions will come. Our hope is that by nurturing an ongoing relationship with his extended birth family and supporting this with explanations and stories about adoption that his situation will simply be normal for him by the time he starts to seriously question his identity.
4. What advice would you offer to a couple or a person who wants to adopt a child?
You need to be 100% committed to adoption and it should be your number one choice for creating a family. This needs to be true in your heart and not just another option or last resort. You should tell everyone you know that you cannot have children by birth and that you are embarking on an adoption journey. If adoption is a secret for you, you might want to examine why that is. Tell family and friends that you do not know how long it will take but you are committed to this path and appreciate their support. You will be amazed at how many people get excited for you. You will also receive naive, hurtful or invasive comments. It's best to face those now rather than later. We also had family say "but you're still trying right?" when we had been told unequivocally that we could not have children. It can take family time to come round - they are still attached to replicating their gene pool. On the plus side, my father-in-law, who said those very words, is baby Theo's biggest fan and spends the most time with him outside of my husband and me.
One last thing, adoption can take a long time, be highly emotional, but with patience, perseverance and faith in the process, you will be successful.
To read more about Harriet's adventures in motherhood visit her blog See Theo Run.
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