Sunday, March 21, 2010

I Admit It, I Snapped

Yesterday began with an argument about the night shift. I asked Wil if there was any way he could change his shift. We got into an enormous fight. I yelled "I hate you! You have no heart!" while holding Ari in my arms and slammed the bedroom door on him while he was going back to sleep.

The night shift continues to cause an enormous level of stress on everyone in the house. I feel like I'm a single mom most of the time. Whenever Wil is here, he's either sleeping or getting ready for work.

Am I proud of the fact that I screamed at him? No. But I reached my frustration threshold. I wanted him to change his shift, he said there was nothing he could do and to "stop asking him." This made me angry so I snapped.

As much as I would like to think that I always do the right thing, I know that's not the case. I'm human and sometimes I loose it.

It was touch and go there for a while. It all ended with apologies and hugs.

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  1. I understand how you feel.. my partner also works the night shift. It's tough.. four nights a week he's gone all night, is asleep for a large part of the day, then wakes up to spend an hour or so with us before it's time to eat dinner, then has to get ready to head back to work. We're just waiting for a position to come up for him on days.

  2. I'm so glad you understand! The night shift is really rough! I hope your partner gets a better shift!

  3. *hugs* the night shift can be so stressful and hard. Ben had to work that in 2005. I hated that he left for work right at dinnertime and right before bedtime. So frustrating. And then he would have to sleep all day. I had Daniel at the time and he was about Ari's age.

  4. So sweet. I know it's hard, so hard. You are both doing the best you can. When Amelia was 6 months, my husband had to work out of town for the week. It was so lonely and I became really resentful of his freedom. He shared an apartment with another engineer who happened to be female!

  5. I get it believe me. Stress in a marriage is worse when there are kids around.

  6. Babe- I love you too!

    Kyndale- That sounds like a really stressful situation. I would totally be resentful and angry!

    Bernthis- It's so true! I just feel badly that A. has to see us fight.

  7. *Hugs! You are such a tough cookie, I'm so proud of you for sticking it out for as long as you have. He needs to get that shift changed pronto!

  8. Awww! Hugs to you Donna-la! Thank you!!! He really needs to change this shift now!


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