Monday, September 27, 2010

Crying in Front of Your Kids

I am now five months pregnant with my second baby, a girl, and I am hormonal as ever. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I wasn't like this when I was pregnant with Ari. During my first pregnancy, I was more aggressive than anything else. I was blunt, confident and nobody would dare mess with me. I was a pregnant superhero.

This pregnancy, I feel more like a damsel in distress. I'm an emotional roller coaster. Unfortunately, poor Ari has to see my go through these crying fits. I don't know exactly what to do when I am "touched" with emotion. When Ari sees me cry he says:

"Don't cry mommy! You don't cry."

But the truth is, I do cry. And I cry a lot at this point in time. I mean, I'm normally a sensitive person, but this is overwhelming. Tiny little things make me cry. Things that (probably) wouldn't bother me if there weren't a fetus, and raging hormones around.

So, I have a question for all you mommies out there, pregnant or not. What do you do when you feel the need to cry in front of your kids?

7 comments:

  1. I cried in front of Tahira last week when she wouldn't eat for days, just because I was stressed. The last time she saw me cry she was a newborn, so she didn't really know what was going on. All she did was laugh at me, like REALLY laugh...hard!

    It's hard for kids to see their mamas cry though. When I was little I remember feeling so upset when I saw my mom cry. I guess you could say at least you're having a girl now, who will understand your emotion one day, and be there for you when you cry. Boys will be there too, but just wont understand (like husbands lol).

    I can't remember if I cried a lot when I was pregnant with T. I think I did!

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  2. Hey I obviously have no fellow mom advice but I have thoughts.

    I don't remember seeing my mom cry until I was 17 and that was the night before she went into the hospital for the first time so it made sense.

    My dad I've seen cry a million times but I still remember the first time - it was when his mom died. I think I was in Kindergarten. It was very upsetting.

    Is there any way you can go splash water on your face or something when it happens?

    P.S. I still can't stand "negative comment will be deleted" - maybe something like "constructive crit is welcomed but hateful comments will be deleted"?

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  3. I leave the room. My daughter gets VERY upset if she sees me crying.

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  4. I think it's important for us to cry in front of our kids-sometimes. And, obviously, in your situation, you can't avoid it. While it may upset Ari in the short term, the chances of him remembering it later are slim, and the chances of it doing any long term harm are even slimmer. I do try to leave the room if I feel it's going to upset them, but at the same time I feel like they need to know that it's OK (and healthy) to express your emotions.
    And, much like the peeing every 45 minutes and the odd food cravings, this too shall pass. That probably doesn't sound very comforting now, but a bunch of us will be here to be shoulders to cry on when you need it-even if you can't figure out why you're crying!

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  5. Amanda - It's upsetting when they don't eat. Boo. I cried a lot when Ari was a newborn. Mainly because I was frustrated. Oh and I missed him being in my belly.

    Mint- Yeah, I could see why your mom would cry in that situation. And I remember my dad crying once when I was little and once like a year ago. You are totally obsessing over the comment message! Chill out woman! I just don't want people writing me hate comments!

    Keyona - I would get like that with my mom too.

    Statia- Ha ha! You're lucky!

    Mrs. B. -Aw! Thanks lady! Yeah, I would agree with that. It is healthy to express your emotions, and for our kids to see is express them.

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