tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post3126624170264554178..comments2023-10-16T07:51:35.575-07:00Comments on Old School/New School Mom : Being on The Same PageSarah Faderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-13996426711240858112010-12-08T15:05:29.149-08:002010-12-08T15:05:29.149-08:00Harriet- Thank you! I totally agree! We can't ...Harriet- Thank you! I totally agree! We can't be wimps! Otherwise Ari will walk all over us. <br /><br />Cordy- You make an excellent point. I think the key is even though parents are two different people, to the kid it is important to appear unified. <br /><br />Amanda- That's the problem I have with Wil! Because he isn't home a lot and I am the primary caretaker, Ari tends to "get over" on him. It's hard. Yeah, kids are so perceptive!<br /><br />JoZina- Sounds like good co-parenting to me. I think it's great that your parents were unified like that!<br /><br />Donna- I must borrow that book! Ah, the path to the coveted R rated movie. Yeah, that was my dad's territory too, and he was also scary when mad.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-66589946971267747832010-12-07T06:15:00.725-08:002010-12-07T06:15:00.725-08:00oh wow...I'm going to add this to the list of ...oh wow...I'm going to add this to the list of what terrifies me about having children. When I was growing up my mom was the all purpose parent because she was always home with us. If we wanted cool stuff like day trips to the zoo and rated R movies dad was the go to parent. Except when you were in trouble, then dad was absolutely terrifying. <br /><br />On another note, a teacher friend of mine gave me The Pocket Parent by Gail Reichlin it's this A-Z guide on how to respond to whining, tantrums, refusal to follow directions. I like it because it provides multiple responses for each problem which make sense, because every child is different. <br /><br />She said she read it with her teacher's aide, and together they selected the responses they liked and made sure to stick with it. That way they were on pretty much the same page, and after a while the students knew what the expect. She said it took a couple weeks but now it's a habit.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01505997050983201333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-84585222291396235032010-12-06T17:37:14.898-08:002010-12-06T17:37:14.898-08:00I tried asking my father after I asked my mother a...I tried asking my father after I asked my mother and I NEVER did that again. I cannot tell you the exact words but it was made clear that such a route would never work. Oh my!JoZinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04904287691049140268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-1565377800606467242010-12-06T16:54:52.914-08:002010-12-06T16:54:52.914-08:00We have this issue sometimes, but it's because...We have this issue sometimes, but it's because Yasir isn't home much and doesn't really know the "procedure." I think it takes consistency, but also lots of communication between each other about what to do and when to do it. When I was a kid I always asked my mom first, and would pray she wouldn't tell me to ask my dad. See, I not only needed my dad's permission, my MOM needed my dad's permission before she gave a concrete answer. Basically, he ruled everything.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00015035251674973186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-36736190950777774022010-12-06T16:18:46.954-08:002010-12-06T16:18:46.954-08:00NO!! And it's sooo bad! We should really agree...NO!! And it's sooo bad! We should really agree more, but it's hard. Parents really are two different people, but to kids they are like one unit. Now I really know what parents had to go through!The Unorthodox Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12214507146914782673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-85879729598020072732010-12-06T15:39:12.077-08:002010-12-06T15:39:12.077-08:00Ooof... I am no expert but I have to say that you ...Ooof... I am no expert but I have to say that you are RIGHT on all counts. Consistency is king. I really don't Theo to be a petulant brat because we were weenies when it came to discipine. Keep trying!harriet glynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223388139583386938noreply@blogger.com