tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post5795664848914303925..comments2023-10-16T07:51:35.575-07:00Comments on Old School/New School Mom : Being Sensitive is a GiftSarah Faderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-80457888370048063862014-02-24T15:45:43.744-08:002014-02-24T15:45:43.744-08:00Totally agree with Trauma Dad's last point. Th...Totally agree with Trauma Dad's last point. The harm is not that you notice these things -- so what? It doesn't sound like you're making value judgments, just observations. The truly weird part is that we are still pretty tribal.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-37509542586826144332014-02-24T11:58:25.166-08:002014-02-24T11:58:25.166-08:00Hold up. You've never been on a subway? Not ev...Hold up. You've never been on a subway? Not even the TTC?Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-47995828045663989782014-02-24T09:32:39.407-08:002014-02-24T09:32:39.407-08:00HAHA! I got a good laugh out of this. I love you...HAHA! I got a good laugh out of this. I love you Sarah. Use whatever works. Especially when you feel bedraggled and tired and angry and stressed out. Mama needs a break. It's not just about race. It's about strategy. Black, white... we're all pawns on a chess board, right? But it's somebody else's game. Just don't expect people to start moving in L shapes and you'll be fine.<br /><br />Prejudice ain't always bad. I look at tired moms and I know they might need help with something. I'll give up my seat for somebody who needs it. So why not also feel free to look for somebody who will soon not need it? I call it functional prejudice. If a kid gets attacked, I want him to know, just by looking at me, that I can and will defend him. If I notice an older person struggling to sit, I may offer an arm. <br /><br />But you're right, there's something wrong with the race thing. It's not that you recognize or use it. That's not the problem. The problem is that we live in an isolationist world. When destinations of entire ethnic groups can be basically categorized by geography with a good deal of consistency, it means we segregate as a society. So yes, there's something wrong with that. But it's not you. It's all of us.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-46545024152271610612014-02-24T07:02:01.944-08:002014-02-24T07:02:01.944-08:00I have never been on a subway except for the subwa...I have never been on a subway except for the subway where you can get subs haha. But it's an interesting take. I don't think you're doing it to be mean, just to get a seat.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-29951592875509777132014-02-23T20:47:20.347-08:002014-02-23T20:47:20.347-08:00Empathy is to be treasured for sure.Empathy is to be treasured for sure.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-5519380142479257282014-02-23T20:46:40.792-08:002014-02-23T20:46:40.792-08:00I think it's wonderful that she's that sen...I think it's wonderful that she's that sensitive and tuned in to her emotions. I could see how it would be overwhelming for a parent though. It's great that you're aware of it.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-67312867152504963892014-02-23T20:18:14.935-08:002014-02-23T20:18:14.935-08:00This is such an important post. Thank you for your...This is such an important post. Thank you for your bravery.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-48913859205248098472014-02-23T20:16:35.785-08:002014-02-23T20:16:35.785-08:00This was a great reminder. I'm pretty sensitiv...This was a great reminder. I'm pretty sensitive, but I mostly hold it inside. Lilah is OFF-THE-CHARTS sensitive, and also extremely intense, which makes for a challenging combination in a 4-year-old because pretty much anything and everything sets her off (with extremely dramatic outbursts), and it is very hard for her to calm down. The best approach I've found is to just sympathize, empathize, and be with her through it as much as my own sensitivities (and patience) will allow. Sometimes that is incredibly hard. I love that your mom encouraged your sensitivity and didn't let you shut down. I've been told that there are incredible upsides to having such a sensitive child, but during the preschool years, I'll admit, I've often struggled to find them. Her sensitivity makes her anxious a lot of the time because she doesn't miss ANYTHING and is constantly taking everything IN. And where and when does it come OUT? When she feels safe and secure. Which is pretty much any time she is with ME. So that's fun. :)Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-16788056221899196392014-02-23T12:01:12.678-08:002014-02-23T12:01:12.678-08:00http://traumadad.blogspot.ca/2014/02/robojerk.html...http://traumadad.blogspot.ca/2014/02/robojerk.htmlSarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-9073743116022446812014-02-23T10:50:13.846-08:002014-02-23T10:50:13.846-08:00So true. Sensitive people are the ones who keep th...So true. Sensitive people are the ones who keep the world's humanity alive... because not only do we feel it, but we feel the need to share it or express it somehow. Also, with sensitivity comes empathy - one of the greatest gifts of all.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-81716613498096987852014-02-23T09:55:34.829-08:002014-02-23T09:55:34.829-08:00Awesome! I can't wait to read it!Awesome! I can't wait to read it!Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-69728351950919345362014-02-23T09:55:12.434-08:002014-02-23T09:55:12.434-08:00Yay! Sensitives unite!Yay! Sensitives unite!Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-55957341381762359402014-02-23T09:55:01.496-08:002014-02-23T09:55:01.496-08:00Cyborgs are cool.Cyborgs are cool.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-16787142156159658822014-02-23T08:28:43.984-08:002014-02-23T08:28:43.984-08:00This was awesome! I'm sensitive, too. I've...This was awesome! I'm sensitive, too. I've always been told to stop crying or to stop being so emotional. But I've learned that it's helped me be a great writer; because I know those feelings all too well, I can put them on the page.<br /><br />Sensitives unite!Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-14211116925231623572014-02-23T06:11:14.959-08:002014-02-23T06:11:14.959-08:00This has inspired a post!This has inspired a post!Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-7640060507156019992014-02-23T05:20:35.328-08:002014-02-23T05:20:35.328-08:00Exactly. I would rather be able to feel deeply tha...Exactly. I would rather be able to feel deeply than be a robot. Not that there's anything wrong with robots. They're cool.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-89017451145078677542014-02-23T05:18:25.956-08:002014-02-23T05:18:25.956-08:00Great post Sarah! We are very alike. I have been t...Great post Sarah! We are very alike. I have been told that I'm too emotional and intense. It's a gift! I'd rather be emotional and intense than numb and unresponsive.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.com