tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post2025861119541456796..comments2023-10-16T07:51:35.575-07:00Comments on Old School/New School Mom : Being Liked At WorkSarah Faderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-11937176355273093752010-09-24T12:42:16.997-07:002010-09-24T12:42:16.997-07:00I try my best to be nice to everyone in general, w...I try my best to be nice to everyone in general, whether it be at work or play or whatever. I think it just makes life easier to be nice than to be an asshole. <br /><br />That said, I used to care what people thought about me. But then I found that people who didn't like me, were also assholes in general to other people. And were therefore generally disliked. Because they are assholes. <br /><br />So wipe that ass and move on I say. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01505997050983201333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-7181949402307659122010-09-24T02:14:40.657-07:002010-09-24T02:14:40.657-07:00You're services could be required! I will keep...You're services could be required! I will keep ya posted! I'm glad you feel my pain ;)Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-2953694726424604302010-09-23T22:02:54.515-07:002010-09-23T22:02:54.515-07:00Oh, I so feel you on this. I am crushed if I think...Oh, I so feel you on this. I am crushed if I think someone doesn't like me.<br /><br />On a side note- if that "person" keeps being rude to you, I am available for hired beatdowns... just sayin'.Jenni Chiu @MommyNaniBooboo https://www.blogger.com/profile/03539931317104305201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-8421899336028469622010-09-23T16:41:42.057-07:002010-09-23T16:41:42.057-07:00Keyona- See, I'm not like that at ALL. You sou...Keyona- See, I'm not like that at ALL. You sound like Wil. LOL! He doesn't care at ALL what people think of him at work. That's why he doesn't understand when I say stuff like this. He's like "F$$k them!"Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-61539389437686378022010-09-23T16:33:52.646-07:002010-09-23T16:33:52.646-07:00I am always super nice at work (even on bad days)....I am always super nice at work (even on bad days). That being said, I could care less if I'm not liked. I am polite. That's all I can do.Keyonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04875993010376385468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-11090376462699563842010-09-23T16:30:06.975-07:002010-09-23T16:30:06.975-07:00That's a good point. Pleasing everyone is impo...That's a good point. Pleasing everyone is impossible. I'll try to let it go, unless it's unbearable. Remember I am hormonal so I am also subsequently easily irritated.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-39178870919514844292010-09-23T16:11:20.008-07:002010-09-23T16:11:20.008-07:00I would be lying if I said that I didn't care ...I would be lying if I said that I didn't care what people thought about me. But the one thing I realized is the only way to be truly unhappy is to try and please everyone. And 9 out of 10 times, when someone doesn't like you, it really has nothing to do with you. It's their own stuff unless your a blatant asshole (which you are not). I know it's hard but try to let it go. And if you find that you can't, try to muster up the courage to confront this person and tell them how you feel.Jenn Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15811064978186607272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-37967593779647685932010-09-23T15:36:21.303-07:002010-09-23T15:36:21.303-07:00See! I wish I could be that way/ think that way! ...See! I wish I could be that way/ think that way! But you're right, it could come with time. I'll wait until it happens again, and then say something. I'll write about the result.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-48834019134227800262010-09-23T15:30:45.902-07:002010-09-23T15:30:45.902-07:00Well, I'm a bitch, so my comments may not coun...Well, I'm a bitch, so my comments may not count. You should always take anything I say with a grain of salt!<br /><br />I think the ability to not be bothered by stuff like that comes with time. I know when I was younger I was much more concerned with what co-workers thought of me. <br /><br />At this point, though, as long as I am doing my job, maintaining my professionalism, and my boss doesn't hate me, I'm ahead of the game. I've actually had a boss where the animosity was mutual, and it took us several months to move past it and work together professionally without letting our feelings for each other get in the way. Now I have a better boss, and if someone else at work hates me, as long as we can both maintain the level of professionalism needed to work together, it's OK.<br /><br />And absolutely, you should call her out-but be the bigger person. Stay calm, maintain your tone of voice, be firm. If she starts yelling and screaming, let her.<br /><br />Let us know how it goes.Mrs. B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03932453056810889012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-89561471489915101422010-09-23T14:25:30.246-07:002010-09-23T14:25:30.246-07:00Yeah, I guess that makes the most sense. Wow, that...Yeah, I guess that makes the most sense. Wow, that is really bizarre that she said that to you. But also kind of helpful? I don't know.Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-84966200190998315892010-09-23T14:21:23.407-07:002010-09-23T14:21:23.407-07:00I had a situation like this once and it totally ch...I had a situation like this once and it totally changed the way I go about making friends. <br />I chose to confront the person, telling them that I had been nothing but nice and was only looking to make a friend or a casual acquaintance in the very least. She responded by telling me that is why she was so irritated with me. Apparently, I had made it very obvious that I was searching for friends. <br />Now I just make sure that I am nice to as many people as possible and silently hope that they like me back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-78083061399084415692010-09-23T13:56:57.308-07:002010-09-23T13:56:57.308-07:00Yeah, I think it might come down to that. I think ...Yeah, I think it might come down to that. I think I have to wait until the person is rude against, and then call them on it. <br /><br />That's so awful that your ex-co-worker said that to you! What is wrong with people?Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-58224828060523270982010-09-23T13:38:30.816-07:002010-09-23T13:38:30.816-07:00At my first "real" job where I was a man...At my first "real" job where I was a manager, I had a co-worker tell me once that nobody in the entire store liked me, and they all "hated my guts" and talked about me when I wasn't around. He said it vindictively...I cried!! I think the worst is not knowing WHY people feel this way about you and the fact that they won't just come out and SAY it! <br /><br />I too wish I didn't care what people thought about me. Maybe just confront this person and be like "hey, what exactly is your deal with me?"Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00015035251674973186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-45821009048225626282010-09-23T13:35:13.478-07:002010-09-23T13:35:13.478-07:00Harriet, that is so good to hear! I guess being a ...Harriet, that is so good to hear! I guess being a nice person does pay off!Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881889234584131192.post-18620637968102907102010-09-23T13:14:29.126-07:002010-09-23T13:14:29.126-07:00After all these years of being a nice person, I th...After all these years of being a nice person, I thought that I really ought to be a bit tougher. Then suddenly out of the blue, I started reaping the benefits of being a nice person. I left my job and all of these former colleagues from years of working started sending work my way. I was shocked. They knew me and trusted me and I think, gosh darn it, they like me. Yay for nice people.harriet glynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223388139583386938noreply@blogger.com